Transrelational Healing

What is Transrelational Healing?

Transrelational healing is based on the understanding of how all of our important relationships are connected - including the relationship with ourselves - and addressing the wounds related to them.

The core premise of transrelational healing is that the relationships people have when they are adults are usually directly related to the relationships they had with caregivers and/or their experiences in childhood. It operates from the perspective that all relationships are interconnected or related in this way. Therefore, the healing needs to span and encompass those different types of relationships. "Transrelational" also refers to the body + mind + spirit triad and treating them as parts of a cohesive whole, rather than as separate entities.

It is not possible to have healthy relationships as an adult until you have addressed and/or healed unhealthy attachments, beliefs and relationships from the past. So much of how we operate is conditioning. The beliefs and ideas that people internalize as children stay with them through adulthood, often unconsciously. These things affect our self-concept, our decision-making, our belief structures and many other things.

The Little Shaman has been developing the transrelational healing model and hopes to begin utilizing it sometime in 2019.


Transrelational healing is based on five key steps. They are:

1. Identifying the pattern(s)

2. Understanding the conditioning & how it applies to present life

3. Addressing the old wounds

4. Breaking the conditioning

5. Reprogramming healthy behavior


Mind has been programmed with thoughts, beliefs and emotions.

Body has been programmed with physical reactions and addictions.

Spirit has been diminished and repressed; faith has been damaged.


Identifying the pattern

  • What is the pattern?

  • How did you identify the pattern?

  • What role does the pattern play in your life?

  • Do you acknowledge that the pattern has been dysfunctional?

  • How is your mind affected by the pattern?

  • How is your body affected by the pattern?

  • How is your spirit affected by the pattern?

  • What is the root or basis of the pattern?

Understanding the conditioning

  • Who or what were you conditioned by?

  • Why was the conditioning effective?

  • How has the conditioning affected your self-concept?

  • How has the conditioning affected your decision-making?

  • What belief structures do you have that are related to the conditioning?

  • How is your mind affected by the conditioning?

  • How is your body affected by the conditioning?

  • How is your spirit affected by the conditioning?

  • How does the conditioning affect your relationships as an adult?

Addressing the old wounds

  • What important relationship was impacted?

  • What does this relationship mean to you?

  • Why have you not addressed these wounds before now?

  • How are you working on acceptance of the situation?

  • Do you understand that caretakers are human and fallible?

  • Do you accept that healing is your responsibility?

  • What would healing look like for you?

  • What would forgiveness look like to you, for yourself and for others?

  • What do you need to do in order to close this chapter of your life?

Breaking the conditioning

  • Take an inventory

  • Address cognitive dissonance

  • Changing the narrative

  • Shadow Work

  • A.U.R.A.

Accept that you have a choice

Understand that you are not a slave to your past experiences

Realize that you are not a victim

Acknowledge that your behavior has been dysfunctional

Reprogramming healthy behavior

  • Practice positive self-care

  • Create and enforce boundaries

  • Neutral observation vs. subjective reaction

  • Create a better self-concept

  • Examine and discard beliefs, opinions and ideals that no longer fit