Mind+Body+Spirit = You: The Transrelational Model For Healing

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Mind. Body. Spirit.

What do these things mean to you? Are they three separate parts, each whole and individual? Do you see them each as their own independent thing? Most people do. We don’t think of the mind as being part of the body, or as part of the spirit. We know, for example, that stress (mind) can cause gastrointestinal upset (body) or disillusionment with life (spirit), but somehow the idea that all of these things are actually interconnected parts of one whole seems to escape us. We still balk at the idea that something mental or emotional could be causing physical problems, or that something physical could be responsible for our state of mind or how we feel. We resist the idea that something spiritual could affect anything other than itself.

But is this really true?

The triumvirate of mind, body and spirit creates the whole that is You. They are like the links of a chain. There is no “most important” link. Each link is connected to and dependent on the others. If any weaken, the chain is broken. A problem with one link is a problem with the integrity of the entire chain. A wound anywhere is a wound everywhere. In the same way that a wound on your hand can become infected and affect your entire body, wounds to any of these areas can - and do - affect your whole being. This means that for any healing modality to be effective, it must encompass all of them. It must focus on treating them as parts of a cohesive whole, rather than as separate entities.

When there is a situation of trauma or abuse, the Whole Self has been affected:

  • Mind has been programmed with thoughts, beliefs and emotions

  • Body has been programmed with physical reactions and addictions

  • Spirit has been diminished and repressed; faith has been damaged

We often find that healing modalities which do not focus on all of these things are incomplete or lacking. Transrelational healing aims to treat the Self as a Whole and address each of these areas as part of one whole being. Behaving as if they are separate can even make things worse, not better.

If we address our emotional wounds but not our spiritual wounds, they will persist - and make themselves known some other way; likely, it will manifest as new emotional issues. If we address our physical wounds but not our emotional wounds, we are not truly healed - and we risk creating new physical problems. This creates enormous frustration in people who simply want to feel better and can’t understand why they don’t. It’s like a merry-go-round that they can’t get off.

When someone has been in a traumatic accident, for example, they may be in the hospital with serious injuries for a month. However, it may take much, much longer to resolve their emotional trauma regarding the incident. Their spiritual and/or existential trauma may never even be addressed. Their bones may heal, their fear or anger may subside but they may still walk around unable to understand how something like this could happen, unable to understand why it happened to them or unable to face the truth of their own mortality. Their faith in everything has been severely shaken and this is just as much of a crisis as either of the others. In some ways, it can be worse because it can be indefinable and hard to communicate to others.

It is the same in situations of ongoing or chronic trauma and abuse. Even if there is no physical abuse, the body is still involved. It has been conditioned to react in certain ways, to do certain things, to expect certain things, to need certain things, etc. Trauma involving the mind and the spirit may have created physical symptoms or chronic illness. There is no situation where all of You is not involved, and no situation where these systems don’t affect each other.

Mind can create problems with Body and Spirit.

Body can create problems with Spirit and Mind.

Spirit can create problems with Body and Mind.

For example:

If you have a chronic illness, you can become depressed and lose your faith.

If you are depressed, you can become ill and lose your faith.

If you lose your faith, you can become ill and depressed.

We must not shy away from the idea that humans are multi-faceted, complex beings. In order to address trauma and abuse effectively, we must take into consideration the Whole Self. It is only by addressing these things as related parts of a whole that we can truly create a picture of healing and balance in our lives.

The Little Shaman is working on the transrelational healing model and hopes to utilize it in 2019 through workshops, lectures and more.